Sometimes, first dates
are filled with awkward pauses so silent you can literally hear the crickets chirping. Pretty nerve-wracking, huh. Actually, it's kind of normal (after all, you're newly acquainted). But so what if eloquence isn't your middle name? Just follow these no-fail date conversation tips to break the ice, spice up your convos and deal with those uneasy speechless moments.
Do: Make small talk
Start with the obvious: Ask your date about his day, the last movie he saw, his pet, or his travel experiences -- they might seem like no-brainer topics, but it's surprising how often small talk like this can trigger a lengthy chatter. Just stick to cordial
questions and steer clear of too-personal discussions like his past relationships, exes and sex life.
Do: Brush up on your current affairs
You don't have to act like you're a leading authority on the latest ground-breaking news stories but you can use current events to kick-start a conversation.
Do: Follow up on what he says
Everyone likes to feel that their date is interested in what they're saying and you can put him at ease by making it obvious that you want to get to know him better. Follow up on things that he says and ask questions to get him to expand on them further. Not only will he be flattered by your interest but it's a great way of keeping the convo going.
Do: Ask open-ended questions
So what questions to ask? Stick to open-ended ones that require more than just a simple one-word answer. For example, when he recaps his recent hiking adventure in Nepal, try asking "how's the scenery and local culture like?" instead of "was it fun?" This way, the conversation has less chance to fizzle out. Do note that there's a fine line between showing interest and coming across like you're trying to cross-examine him, though -- be selective when you pose your questions or you could make him extremely nervous.